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Virgin River gives postpartum anxiety airtime… finally!

In the Netflix series Virgin River, Season 7 Episode 7 “It Takes a Village,” new mom Lizzie reaches a breaking point and receives a diagnosis of postpartum anxiety. As an advocate for maternal mental wellness, I am always glad to see this theme represented in pop culture, and it’s high time postpartum anxiety got some airtime. While no two women have the same postpartum journey, there are signs that pointed toward Lizzie definitely experiencing postpartum anxiety and not postpartum depression, which gets talked about more frequently. Having had postpartum anxiety myself, I’m eager to explore this episode here with you, highlighting not only what the show did well, but also pointing out one critical error in the storyline.

Let’s back up a bit and introduce Lizzy to the Pump Momma Pump community

Elizabeth “Lizzie” is a troubled young woman living in the town of Virgin River. Her character arc, begins in Season 2 when she moves to Virgin River under the guardianship of her aunt Connie after she becomes too much trouble for her parents.  By Season 7, she is settled within the community, living with her boyfriend in his grandparent’s house, surrounded by supportive family and friends. With a little help from ChatGPT, let’s explore where Lizzy is in season 7. In Virgin River Season 7, Lizzie is firmly in her young-mom era, and her storyline focuses on the reality of parenting, emotional strain, and figuring out her future. Lizzie is raising her baby Fumiko (Koko) with her boyfriend Denny Cutler, and a big part of her arc is adjusting to motherhood. It’s not portrayed as easy—she’s dealing with sleep deprivation, anxiety about doing things “right,” and generally feeling overwhelmed by this new responsibility. Season 7 really leans into the fact that Lizzie is still young and figuring things out. She has moments where the pressure builds up—like at her baby shower (Episode 7), where she becomes visibly overwhelmed. It shows just how isolating early motherhood can feel, even with support around her. Lizzie’s storyline is about the messy, real side of growing up fast—balancing youth, motherhood, and an uncertain future. It adds a more emotional, grounded layer to the season alongside the bigger drama happening in this small mountain town.

Spotting Lizzie’s postpartum anxiety

As soon as we hear Lizzie telling Denny she’ll try to get some sleep, but we see her remain nervously fixated on Koko’s bassinette, I knew something was wrong. We continue to see symptoms of a growing problem throughout the episode.

Excessive worry or fear

In the previous episode, we find out that Lizzie’s parents are coming for a visit, to meet their new granddaughter. Lizzie didn’t plan to allow her parents to hold the baby, since they will have been exposed to germs on their recent cruise, and on the plane to Virgin River. She also doesn’t leave the house with Koko when invited out for lunch or to social gatherings in town. We also see Lizzie exhibit controlling behaviors over the baby’s eating and sleeping routine, even when the baby does not seem hungry or tired. Rigid control, avoidance of leaving the house, and overly cautious behaviors are all signs of postpartum anxiety (PPA).

Insomnia

People keep asking Lizzie if she got sleep, and she replies with vague answers, not taking their advice to sleep when the baby sleeps or while someone else is caring for the baby. Women experiencing PPA insomnia get these “tired but wired” feelings, where they desperately need sleep but feel unable or unwilling to do so.

Intrusive thoughts and catastrophic thinking

After their visit with Lizzie’s parents, Lizzie is convinced that Koko picked up an illness from being held by per mother after her mother’s airline and cruise ship germ exposure. While there is no evidence of illness in baby Koko, Lizzie’s catastrophic thinking has got her assuming the worst. When Koko becomes overwhelmed by people and noise at the baby shower, Lizzie can’t get her to stop crying and assumes the worst.

Rage and mood swings

By this point in the show we know that Lizzie is a spitfire who always speaks her mind and wears the pants in her relationships, but her outbursts at boyfriend Denny are uncharacteristic of how we normally see them interact. Irritability and feelings of being on-edge are also warning signs of PPA.

Physical manifestations of PPA

During Lizzie’s baby shower at Jack’s bar, we see her growing increasingly uncomfortable in the crowded space, with many well-wishers holding and breathing on her baby. She ends up locking herself in Jack’s office and experiencing a kind of panic attack. Anxiety can manifest in physical symptoms like rapid breathing, racing heartbeat, shortness of breath, even dizziness and nausea.

While these are common postpartum anxiety symptoms, keep in mind that PPA is different for everyone, and can often be difficult to self-diagnose, especially for new moms who are experiencing sleep deprovision and are feeling cautious about the care of their new baby.

A critical error in Lizzie’s care

After Lizzie’s breakdown at the bar, Virgin River’s star nurse practitioner Mel sits with her on the bathroom floor and diagnoses her with postpartum anxiety. “I just can’t stop thinking about all these awful things. All these terrible things playing through my head. I see them happen and I feel like what it might feel like to lose her. Is this normal?” Lizzie asks, to which Mel answers, “It’s really common, post people don’t know they have it.” I can personally attest to both of these points. I didn’t know what was wrong with me before I was diagnosed, I just knew something needed to change. Now, the more I talk to new moms, the more I see how common PPA is, not just postpartum depression (PPD) which is still the only thing they routinely screen for at postpartum doctor appointments.

While I am glad to see Lizzie getting this diagnosis and on her way to feeling better, I have a new major issues with her care. In Episode 8, Mel, now in her role as the town Midwife, meets with Lizzie and Denny in the birthing center. She explains how an anxiety disorder affects the brain. Her first suggestion is putting Lizzie on an SSRI to treat her postpartum anxiety. Lizzie has a strongly negative reaction, declining medication, even after Mel tells her that it is safe for breastfeeding mothers and Denny encourages her to remain open to Mel’s suggestions. After a brief pause, Mel suggests alternatives such as breathing exercises, outdoor activities, and meditation. Denny suggests his own practice of Shinrin Yoku, forest bathing mediation. That’s all fine and dandy but….

No. Mention. Of. Therapy. Major major error here in Lizzie’s care, here! There’s no way SSRIs should have been the first course of action. Are SSRIs useful for treating PPA? Absolutely! I am on a low dose of Sertraline and it has made a huge difference. What I use daily, however, are all of the strategies I’ve learned in therapy. While taking time to speak with a therapist can be seen as just one more thing on your plate as a new mom, even a virtual session every other week can be a game changer in learning more about anxiety and distorted thinking, and how to deal with the stressors of daily life.

It takes a village… even a country, if necessary.

While sitting with the fragile Lizzie, Doc’s wife and town mayor Hope points out the importance of a village coming together to support the new mom, and that they are all learning how to do this together. “My first lesson is, never take your eyes off the mom. I promise to keep a better eye on you, ” Hope says. The women of the town come together to organize childcare, chores, and a meal train to support Lizzie and Denny. “It takes a country.” Hope says “You mean it takes a village!” Aunt Connie interjects. “No… it takes a village to raise a child, it takes a whole country to look out for a mother.”

I really believe that this episode, and subsequently this blog post, is part of the “country” taking care of you new mommas. The more people talk about their experience with PPA, the more it’s normalized on TV, and on social media, the more mommas we can reach and help support.

Get the help you deserve

New mommas… Any of this hitting a bit too close to home? Like Lizzie, do you feel like something is off, that you’re just not yourself, but you can’t put your finger on it? Contact Postpartum Support International, talk to your OBGYN/Midwife, or your GP (general practitioner), or see what local therapists are covered by your insurance. You deserve to feel better than this. Your mental health matters.

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Who says you’re “just” a Mom?

Motherhood can seem all-consuming. How is it possible to be the best mom you can be, and still hold onto who you were before baby? Better yet, instead of ‘holding onto’ your past self, how can you evolve as a woman and mother and grow into this new role with grace and confidence?

Read how the following mommas navigated their transition into motherhood:

Renee- Pennsylvania

Looking back to when I felt most adrift, after my first child was born, I wish I had given myself more grace for ‘not feeling like myself’. The feeling of losing myself to the care of another person, of not knowing who this strange exhausted zombie was, scared me. I didn’t know if I’d ever feel ‘normal’ again. When I think about it now, I realize just how normal that feeling is. My body, hormones, schedules, sleep patterns – every normal thing in my life changed, so of course I wasn’t going to feel like myself! I think every mom, stay at home or not, feels like they are a different person for a time, and that’s okay. You will find yourself again, and you’ll like who you’re becoming again. 

One thing that helps me maintain a sense of identity is reconnecting with things that have always been a part of me. The things I loved as a child, or the things I discovered as a teenager, all remind me of who I am and where I come from. I have always loved nature, and so I try to spend time outside both alone and with my kids. I love watching and listening to the things I enjoyed in high school. Those things help me stay grounded, and keep me from fixating on how I imagined myself at this stage of life. I don’t have to look or act like any other mom than the one that I’m specifically designed and called to be. I’m a mom, and I’m also a mom who loves nature, watches cringey dramas, and listens to emo music. Reconnecting with those interests helps me feel like me, and also guides me as I find new interests and introduce my kids to things they can love too. 

Danielle- Georgia

  Being a mother and maintaining oneself apart from motherhood is one of the greatest challenges I have faced. It took me a couple of years into it to even feel brave enough to leave my child behind to make a grocery run without her. One child turned into two, and finally I slowly stopped putting myself dead last. I realized that prioritizing my mental health was not just an act of love for myself, but for my children too. Getting there however, was anything but easy. 
    I’m a younger mother still in my mid-twenties, so having an authentic sense of self aside from motherhood has been somewhat of a foreign concept for me. Battling existing mental health issues, tacking on postpartum depression, and having two children within two years was a whirlwind of survival mode. But through therapy, time apart from my kids spent with friends, and alone time to just really exist as someone other than “mom” for a bit – I’ve found pieces of myself along the way. 
    At times that alone time looked like taking my first vacation alone with some friends, and not feeling guilty at all that I left my children behind for a few days with my husband. At times it looks like hiding out in my room watching TV and eating snacks on a bad mental health day while my husband takes over. And a lot of times, it looks like me kissing the kids goodbye to run some errands in peace. I have learned that I need to have time alone to stay “me,” and I’ve learned to not feel ashamed because of it. Now I know that I’m a loving mother, AND a billion other things. We are all happier for it, too.

Molly- Minnesota

I grew up watching love stories unfold through the TV — the tale of torn hearts, the trials to get back to one another and many others in-between. The tugging and pulling of relationships that I watched then was actually mirroring how my heart felt as a working mom, especially in those first few months. A torn heart trying to get back to familiarity, fulfillment and peace.

In one light, I was a new mom and in the other I was a career person — not to mention the many other hats worn as a person in general. It was a race between worlds and one where I couldn’t see the finish line — identity crisis might be the more formal term. It’s wasn’t easy and it wasn’t always clear; I asked myself many times if I was making the right choice in returning to work at 12 weeks postpartum.

But peace came.

Around 6 months of age with both of my babies, I finally hit that place of solitude I was begging for — that place where you know you’re where you’re meant to be. Being a mother with a career outside of the home is the place for me. Yes, it has come with hardship, but it also comes with empowerment, trust and some of the best relationships.

I have learned how to live a life not trying to “balance” it all but instead flow with the ever changing patterns. I have learned that help is a good thing and support is essential. I have learned who I am as a person and not by just one defined role.

Erica- New Jersey

Becoming a mother added real complexity to my career and personal life but it didn’t in anyway take away from my passion, drive or ability. In fact, motherhood has made me the leader I am today in more ways than one and for that I am eternally grateful.

I think losing ourselves, to an extent, is a requirement to be a good mother. Adding an entire new human being without changing who we are would be impossible. Becoming a completely different person doesn’t seem healthy, but letting your child’s existence affect yours? Normal. In my experience, continuing to try to do everything while being a mom was more of my natural tendency than giving up all of myself for the kids. I had to think and work hard to embrace the mom role. Here are two ways that I have tried to conquer my natural selfishness while maintaining The Essence of Erica:

Learning how to improve my parenting by reading books, listening to podcasts and taking courses-understanding what they heck these kids are doing and why makes me feel more capable. I like to work hard, be capable and see improvement, so my unofficial Continuing Education feels true to myself and good for my kids. Repeatedly hearing that other mothers experienced similar difficulties was an added bonus.

I found ways to pursue my interests, but sometimes altering them to include or fit kids. I enjoy the occasional craft. Sewing tiny outfits for beloved stuffed animals or opening the craft drawer and producing necklace making supplies delight my children and let me exercise that creative muscle. Hosting Cold Treat Tuesday every week this summer is giving me a chance to try new dessert recipes and everybody is glad to be a taste tester.

If you are also a mother who doesn’t want to let all of her pre-kids life fall away and wants to invite her kids into her world, perhaps a suggestion of mine can help.

Melissa- Pennsylvania

And lastly, you’ll hear from me:

I always wanted to be a mom, but several years before I became a mother I had a moment of panic. Choosing motherhood seemed so permanent. I liked change. I like reinventing myself and trying and learning new things, new relationships, new hobbies, options. I didn’t want to trade that in for a permanent role as “mom” for the rest of my life… did I? It seemed boring. My cousin, a mother of multiple children, reassured me that there is nothing “boring” about motherhood and that now you get to grow as a woman AND watch your kids grow and change and constantly get interested in new things.

After having children, I quickly learned how right she was. This motherhood business isn’t boring, and there’s nothing but constant change, challenge, and growth. I can pursue my career(s), my hobbies, and relationships with friends and family that evolve along with me. I can watch my kids grow and become unique humans with their own personalities and interests, somehow both because of, and despite, my own influences on them.

I don’t want to stay who I was before I became a mother. I worked hard to be the woman I am right now, and I’m still working on myself. I like who I am becoming, more and more every day. I don’t want to be defined by my role as a mother, but I want that role to be a beautiful facet of who I am, along with all of other beautiful facets of my life.

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Who says you can’t work out while breastfeeding?

Do what makes you feed good.

Dang did I feel like a couch troll after giving birth.

No seriously, I did. Couch. Troll. I went from running every single morning in cute workout clothes to becoming one with my couch and not showering for 4 days. Not only had I been swollen and uncomfortable during pregnancy, and therefore not able to do all those cute prenatal workout videos I bookmarked on YouTube, but both of my babies blasted out of my tiny frame leaving me in need of stitches and therefore much more couch time. Gone were my carefree running at sunrise days. Gone was my gym membership. Gone were my abs. Sigh. Why did I even buy that new pair of running shoes? How could I even begin running again when my leaky boobs hurt and I failed my “free to resume normal activities” 6 week check-up? Well, I couldn’t. Not yet.

I had to find new ways to move. I couldn’t just give it up. Moving my body feels good. If you’re a runner, you know that high you get after a good run. That therapeutic release of energy. That cadence of your feet on the pavement or the path you run on daily.

For the record I advocate for BOTH working out AND therapy! Life savers, both of them.

When you’re breastfeeding, though… running doesn’t feel good. Not when your breasts have tripled in size and your nipples are sore… nope. So I had to find something that felt good. Walking, and then eventually lightly jogging with my stroller would have to do. Hey, at least getting out there again made me feel like me. I began doing yoga, too… and eventually that felt good, too. I even got back into cute workout clothes, (but this time they were breastfeeding friendly!) See, you have to do (and wear) what makes you feel like YOU. You were someone before baby, and that someone matters.

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Diet vs. Diet

So why is there this notion you can’t work out while breastfeeding?

Well, one reason is that breastfeeding is not the time to diet. Many women have this notion that they need to immediately return tot he size they were pre-baby and consider dieting and exercise to get that body back. I’m not here to tell you you can’t work for the body you want. I want you to WANT the body you have… but listen, I get being uncomfortable in a size (or multiple sizes) larger than you’re used to being. It’s okay to want to work for that body… but now might not be the time to “work” for it the way you are used to.

You see, weight loss through exercise and diet is usually about caloric deficit- burning more calories than you’re consuming, and therefore “burning” off your fat. The thing is, breastfeeding mommas need MORE calories, not less, to produce a healthy milk supply. Up to 500 more a day! (Yes, being in caloric deficit can decrease your milk supply. womp womp.)

Does that mean you should go binge on cheeseburgers and milkshakes every day? No. (I mean, you CAN… you do you…) You can still watch what you eat without purposefully losing weight. Eating a healthy diet doesn’t mean you have to “Diet” with a capital D. Instead, make sure you’re eating a diet rich in good fats and proteins. If you DO work out, grab a protein bar or add some protein powder into a smoothie (or milkshake!) in addition to your daily meals. Make up for any lost calories, the healthy way.

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Low impact, high comfort

There are a few reasons I traded in my running shoes for a yoga mat.

Cardio burns calories, and we just talked about those precious calories we need to conserve (and even add!) while breastfeeding. So that’s one reason. The other reason is that running can HURT when you’re breastfeeding, as can high intensity, high impact workouts. If your doctor clears you to begin working out, ask them what kind of workouts they suggest, not only to care for your postpartum body, but also taking breastfeeding into consideration.

Try something new! I never imagined I’d like yoga. I thought it’s what hippies and suburban moms did. (Oh wait, I am a suburban mom. *Eye roll*) You might find a new way to move your body that is low impact, high comfort. Your workout routine might not look like it did before. And that’s OKAY! Yoga also brought some quiet into my life. Some time to put down my phone and get centered. It was good for my mental AND physical health!

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Hydrate to lactate!

Drinking like a camel will not help you produce milk like a cow.

Weird analogy? Sorry bout that… was trying to go with the animal theme. It’s true…. drinking an EXCESS of water will not instantly give you more milk. BUT… most of us go around dehydrated and you’d be surprised what being dehydrated can do to your milk supply! (If you know, you know!)

If you’re breastfeeding and working out, PLEASE make an effort to stay hydrated! Take a water bottle with you everywhere! Use a water enhancer or drink an electrolyte drink to recover! This will not only keep headaches and fatigue at bay, it’ll support your milk supply.

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Knowing what you need is Self-Care

Breastfeeding mothers give SO MUCH of themselves to their families. It’s important to take care of your OWN needs as well, momma! Knowing what you need is part of self-care. Not everyone likes bubble baths or quiet reading or shopping for new shoes! Really tuning in to what makes you happy, what calms you or invigorates you, what feeds your soul… That’s the idea here! For example, I NEED sunshine, especially in the winter!

There’s a sunny spot in the corner of my gym and I make it a point to go workout in that exact spot so not only am I filling my need for fitness/physical exertion, but also soaking in the rays while doing so!


Knowing what you need can take time. Tune in to your body and your mind. Notice the small changes you can make throughout your day to make yourself happier.

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breastfeeding in the comments below!