“Murder bottles”- a fascinating, yet morbid topic. Get ready for a historical deep dive into Victorian “murder bottles,” a term often used to describe 19th-century baby feeding bottles that were horrifically unsanitary and often led to infant illness or death. If this topic is triggering to you, please refrain from reading.
The Deadly Secret of Victorian “Murder Bottles”
During the Victorian era (1837-1901) a revolution in child feeding was unknowingly killing babies. This early design of glass or ceramic feeding bottles, marketed as a modern, convenient feeding solution, have been dubbed “murder bottles” or “death bottles” do to their contribution to an already high infant mortality rate. Behind their delicate shapes and fancy designs lay one of the deadliest inventions of the 19th century.
What Were “Murder Bottles”?
“Murder bottles” were early baby bottles, the design of which contributed to an already terrifyingly high infant mortality rate. (15%-50% of infants in Victorian Britain died before age 1.) These bottles were typically made of glass, but historians have also found opaque styles made from earthenware. The bottle’s opening was blocked with a rubber stopper, from which came a long rubber tube with a nipple at the end. They were designed to enable infants and toddlers to feed themselves, which was a selling point for busy mothers or nurses. These glass nursing bottles were often elaborately decorated, embossed with floral motifs or animals, and had names like “the Little Cherub” or “Mummies Darling.”
The deception lies in their design, which was anything but safe.
What was in these bottles?
Victorian infant feeding practices varied based on social status and financial means. It was out of fashion to breastfeeding by directly nursing, so wealthy women might hire a “wet nurse” to latch their baby instead. (Queen Victoria hired a wet nurse to feed all of her 9 children.) Yes, there were rudimentary breast pumps at this time, but they were usually reserved for medical use- relieving of the breast, versus a feeding choice. While there could have been breastmilk in these “death bottles,” there was likely homemade or prescribed formula. In Victorian times, mothers might follow a “prescription” of what to mix to make an infant formula. The first prepared infant formula was patented in 1865 by chemist Justus von Liebig, and was available in liquid or powdered form. This formula consisted of cow’s milk, wheat and malt flour, and potassium bicarbonate (a kind of salt). When unsweetened condensed milk was invented in 1885, it was a popular choice for infant feeding and highly recommended by pediatricians. At this time, there were 27 name brand infant foods available, all made with evaporated cow’s milk with added carbohydrates, but lacking valuable nutrients like protein, vitamins, and minerals.
However, It wasn’t what was in the bottles that caused illness and even death. That can be attributed to spoilage of milk and bacteria growth, unknown to the general public at the time.
The Fatal Flaw: Uncleanable Design
A long rubber tube , sometimes stretching over 18 inches, connected the nipple to the bottle, which was often narrow-necked and impossible to clean properly. Especially in the summer, when infant morality rates would rise, milk would spoil quickly, clinging to the inside of the tube and bottle, forming a perfect breeding ground for bacteria. Additionally, bacteria could permeate the porous rubber in the tube and nipple, with enough bacteria embedding itself in the material to cause infection. As the milk fermented, the bottle became a toxic cocktail of pathogens like E. coli, salmonella, and other deadly bacteria. Inhaled bacteria could lead to pneumonia. Babies would continue to drink from these contaminated bottles day after day, often becoming sick with diarrhea, dysentery, or “summer complaint,” the polite Victorian term for infant death caused by infection and dehydration.
Internet sensationalist articles will claim that lack of cleanliness can also be attributed to popular Victorian author Isabella Beeton’s advice to disassemble and clean baby bottles every 2-3 weeks(!) Her texts were a foundational guide to domesticity at the time. In my own research, however, I find conflicting advice from Mrs. Beeton. In The Management of Children in Heath and Sickness (1873), she writes, “the nipple [of the baby bottle] need never be removed till replaced by a new one, which will hardly be necessary oftener than once a fortnight, though with care one will last for several weeks” But in a 1907 copy of Isabella Beeton’s Book of Household Management, Beeton writes, “No bottles with rubber tubes should be used, since milk sticks to the inside of the tube, and cannot be removed. This milk when decomposed will set up diarrhœa. The bottle and teat must be scalded after each meal in hot water and soda, the teat turned inside out, and both rinsed in cold water. ” However, without today’s understanding of bacteria, and the public not understanding germ theory, proper cleaning and sterilization of feeding equipment was rare.
Public health officials eventually sounded the alarm, condemning the use of these “killer bottles.” By the early 20th century, simpler glass bottles with wide necks replaced the old designs, and boiling or sterilizing feeding equipment became common advice.
Why We Still Talk About Them
Today, “murder bottles” are a haunting reminder of how innovation without hygiene can turn deadly. They’re prized by collectors and museums for their eerie beauty and serve as a sobering artifact from a time when medical science lagged behind marketing. These bottles remind us that even the most well-intentioned inventions can have tragic consequences when we underestimate the importance of sanitation and science.
So, why do you own one?
I have a growing collection of antique and vintage breast pumps. Alongside this collection, I also collect antique and vintage baby bottles because I find them fascinating. I owned this antique baby bottle for years before I found out the ugly truth behind bottles like this.
Why share this with you today? Not to frighten or disturb you, but because I found this history fascinating and am in deep appreciation for today’s standards of cleanliness and care for our precious babies! Gratitude makes pumping a more positive experience, and after reading about this topic, I am overwhelmed with gratitude for technological advancements that have kept my babies safe!
Sources:
- Victorian Baby “Murder” Bottles– by OKS Association
- Murder Bottles– Baby Bottle Museum, UK
- Victorianweb.org
- A History of Infant Feeding– National Library of Medicine
- Mrs Beeton’s Book of Household Management, Chapter IXXII
- The Management of Children in Health and Sickness, Isabella Beeton
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Baby Registry Regrets
The number one item I wish I registered for? Spoiler alert- It’s a wagon. (But keep reading!) My kids are currently 6 and 8, so it’s been a little while since I did a baby registry. Since then, I have seen so many cool products and registry ideas that I wish I had a do-over! There are a few essential items I am positively kicking myself for not adding to my baby registry. Scroll down even farther to see what the mommas over at @pump_momma_pump wish they registered for!
*This post is not sponsored by any registry sites or stores. Ahhh, refreshing to hear!*
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Top 3 registry regrets
- NUMBER 1 REGRET: I wish I got a stinkin’ WAGON! Listen mommas… I could STILL be using this wagon! My petite 6 year old hates any long distance walking, so a wagon would come in handy on walks around the neighborhood, at the county fair, trick-or-treating… etc! If I registered for a wagon with baby #1, I would have been using that gift for over 8 years now… can you say that about any other baby registry item? Nope! Still kicking myself for not registering for, or buying one myself! (Alas I think it’s too late to invest at this point… *sighhh*)
- What kind of wagon? As long as it folds up, I’d be cool with it. While something like this Larktale Caravan looks amazing, I’d also be thrilled to have something as “basic” as the Wonderfold. My husband would probably love the grey and orange Jeep wagon! GAH! Looking at these has thrown me into deep despair- whyyy didn’t I get a wagon?! *first world problems, much? Hehe*
- What kind of wagon? As long as it folds up, I’d be cool with it. While something like this Larktale Caravan looks amazing, I’d also be thrilled to have something as “basic” as the Wonderfold. My husband would probably love the grey and orange Jeep wagon! GAH! Looking at these has thrown me into deep despair- whyyy didn’t I get a wagon?! *first world problems, much? Hehe*
- A close second: Wish I got a stroller with a basinet attachment. They look so posh, don’t they? Like a proper vintage English pram. My baby could have been blissfully sleeping in a movable basinet instead of scrunched into a car seat. Our neighborhood was very walkable and I had summer babies, so I spent a lot of time going on walks. Walking was good for my mental and physical health, and was a way for me to connect with my husband after work. I wish I registered for a stroller with attachments for every age and stage.
- This Thule brand one would have been amazing, though I was very happy with my Baby Jogger even though it didn’t come with a basinet option!
- This Thule brand one would have been amazing, though I was very happy with my Baby Jogger even though it didn’t come with a basinet option!
- Coming up third: I regret registering for diapers and baby clothes! Buying diapers was not a hardship for us personally, and we enjoyed trying several different brands before picking a favorite. (Pampers ended up being the worst, and Huggies/Kirkland were our favorites!) As for baby clothes, Everyone gives you those anyway! Both of my babies were early and tiny, so the holiday-specific clothes didn’t line up with their sizes, I didn’t realize I had no use for baby shoes (most pointless item ever) or that I’d come to prefer snap jammies over zippers! (I am definitely in the minority there, LOL) I’d rather put some big ticket items on the registry instead of ten zillion outfits they outgrow instantly, and diapers we didn’t even like!
- Lastly, shoulda registered for a wearable breast pump! Okay I know I said 3, but I would be remiss if I didn’t include this one. After all, I do run “Pump Momma Pump!” I wish I registered for a wearable breast pump. I got my trusty Spectra through insurance, and I was gifted the Baby Buddha… but I paid for that Elvie out of pocket and ooof did that hurt my wallet! I wish I had registered for it, or for a gift card toward it! I would have included a mid-grade wearable on my registry instead of buying a super expensive one myself.
- The MomCozy M5 or Lacevo would have been great to register for!
Thinking outside of the box (or gift bag!)
Did you know that many registry sites let you register for things that can’t be wrapped in a box or stuffed into a gift bag? You can register for a postpartum doula, a postnatal massage or facial, parenting magazine, photography sessions, house cleaning, babysitting, meal delivery or laundry service!
My number one “can’t be wrapped” gift regret?
- MEALS! I wish I had asked someone to set up a meal train with friends, family, even church members! I remember getting home from the hospital, expecting a porch full of casseroles, and getting… nothing. I ate cereal and I cried.
Even DoorDash or GrubHub would have helped in those early days! I have distinct memories of hobbling through the grocery store on the way home from the hospital, so sore from birth, filling my cart just like it was any other week. Who let me do that? Seriously major regrets there!
Sharing is caring
One of the best “gifts” I got after having my second baby was 4 black trash bags of hand-me-downs. For those unfamiliar with that term… I am talking about gently used baby clothes passed down so someone else can get use out of them and avoid buying everything new.
My coworker’s twins were a year older than my daughter, so she was eager to get rid of bins of baby clothes, and I was eager to receive!
Why more people don’t pass along baby clothes is a mystery to me. Infants don’t wear each size for very long, so if they aren’t completely stained, pass those on to someone who could give them a second life!
The regret here is buying soooo many new clothes, when I could have requested hand-me-downs or purchased from my local thrift or consignment stores.
What the mommas really want
When I asked my mommas over at https://www.instagram.com/pump_momma_pump/
what they wish they registered for, I got hundreds of answers. The number one regret? Not registering for a…
- BABY BOTTLE WASHER! Now, keep in mind that most of my Instagram community is made up of pumping mommas, so bottle washing is a BIG TIME hassle for them, for sure. I was actually blown away by how many mommas wish they had a baby bottle washer. I was curious, so I asked a follow-up question. For those who had a washer, which one did they get and love? The results were, in order of popularity:
- MomCozy
- Baby Breeza
- Countertop dishwashers (I know this isn’t a “baby” item but it was a verrrry popular answer!)
- Papablic
Tips for your baby registry
I could do a whole blog on tips for creating a baby registry, but that isn’t the point of this particular post. Since we are talking about regrets, that’s the spin I’ll take here: Making a registry you won’t regret!
- Talk to mommas! What do they regret putting on their registry? What do they wish they had registered for, instead? Take notes!
- Don’t register for things that expire, like formula. Instead, put gift cards on that list so you can make those purchases yourself, when you need to.
- Don’t try to be someone you’re not. Registering for cloth diapers and homemade baby food-makers will not automatically make you a crunchy mom if you’re not already crunchy, know what I mean?
- When in doubt, include it! Nothing is too big or too small to be on a registry. If you only include big ticket items, you may wish you got more smaller necessities. If you only include small items, you may wish you took a chance including that stroller or crib!
- Look into what non-gift items you’re going to wish you included, like food delivery or a laundry service.
- Second or third baby? Go ahead and make a registry! It’s not gauche, and you may regret not asking for what you need! Even if you don’t have a baby shower or baby sprinkle, make a registry. That way, if someone asks, you have a link to easily give them.
What are YOUR biggest registry regrets?
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How to Pick the Best Breast Pump for Work
“How do I know which breast pump to pick?” Talk about a popular question! I get this one often and honestly it’s difficult to answer! I had the opportunity to be a guest on “Chillin with Ceres Chill,” a video podcast series where Ceres Chill’s Rebekah Scroggy, RN BSN IBCLC sits down with the coolest experts from all over the world to discuss the hottest pumping/postpartum topics. Together, we discussed how to pick the best breast pump for returning to work. Let’s dive in!
*This interview has been adapted and enhanced for Pump Momma Pump’s blog. To view the actual podcast recording, scroll down and click the video link! Enjoy!*
First tell us, how did you came to be “Pump_Momma_Pump?”
My son was born a month early which landed him in the NICU. He was very sleepy and had no stamina for nursing, despite working on latch. After seeing 3 lactation consultants in the hospital (none even talked about pumping… *eye roll*), it was the NICU nurse that taught me how to use the hospital’s pump and got me started on exclusively pumping. (I didn’t even know exclusive pumping was “a thing”!) At the time there wasn’t support for pumping, let alone flange sizing etc. There was only one woman online educating about pumping. (Shout out to Amanda Glenn from exclusivepumping.com!) There were Facebook support groups but you got banned if you even mentioned nursing (I should know, I got banned myself!) So long story short, I became who I needed when I started exclusively pumping- education, motivation, and support for any pumping mom.
Starting with the Basics
When someone’s getting ready to return to work, what should they think about first when choosing a breast pump?
Honestly, what your insurance covers! Start there. There might be different companies with different options available under your insurance plan, so shop around. Then, think about what pump you’ll need for your line of work. For example, if you have access to a pumping room with outlets, something like the Spectra S2 (the pink one) might be just fine, but it’s not portable. If you work on the road, you might need a portable pump like Pumpables Genie Advanced or Baby Buddha. If you need to pump more discretely while working, like a nurse pumping while charting, a wearable might be best.
- Spectra S2 (pink) on Amazon
- Pumpables Genie Advanced- Discount code PMP10
- Baby Buddha- Discount code PUMPMOMMA
Can you walk us through the key differences between manual, electric, and wearable pumps?
Sure sure! Manual pumps are just that- manual- they operate by hand, squeezing down a handle, not electric or battery powered. Electric pumps either plug in, can be recharged, or take batteries. Wearables, what I call the coconuts, are individual units per breast and fit discretely under clothing.
In your opinion, what makes a pump “work-friendly”
That’s so hard to answer because everyone works differently. Some mommas work from home, while others are truck drivers, teachers, cashiers, etc. The more important question is: How does your work support pumping? The pumping space they are legally required to provide will dictate what style pump may work best for you. Often portable and wearable pumps are marketed as “work friendly” because they are assuming you need to move around and be hands-free. While this makes sense, and is definitely true… many mommas pump on break at work and have the opportunity to sit down and take some time to focus on pumping. In this instance, a heavier pump, or one that needs to remain plugged in, can definitely work.
Dig Into Specific Features
Is pump output impacted by portability? Are wearable pumps just as effective?
Milk output can be impacted by portability. Everyone’s body responds differently to different pumps. It’s a good idea to try more than one pump to see which empties you the most effectively. What can be a real game changer, though, is flange sizing. A personal example: When I was using the Elvie, my output was less than when using my Spectra S1. I didn’t know I could get a flange insert for my Elvie so I was using the standard 24mm when I really could have been using a 17mm- that’s a huge difference! I highly suggest pumping way before returning to work so you can get sized properly and find the pump that empties you most effectively.
How much does noise level really matter—and are there quiet options you love?
I used the Elvie because at that time, there were only two wearable brands and both were quite expensive and very quiet. (In conversation, Rebekah also shared that she used the Willow, also chosen because those were the only 2 wearables available.) The Elvie is still the quietest pump I have personally seen/used. However, I didn’t need that level of quiet, I could have used a pump half the price and still had the freedom of a wearable without the price tag! Companies like MomCozy and Zommee have great, affordable, wearable options.
If someone needs discretion, the more expensive option would be worth it… otherwise, save some money and get a mid-grade option that is just a little louder, but still offers the freedom of wearability.
- Elvie breast pump- Amazon
- Willow breast pump- Amazon
- MomCozy M5 breast pump- Amazon
- MomCozy Mobile Flow- Amazon
- Zomee breast pump– Discount Code PUMPMOMMA10
Navigating Insurance & Upgrades
What should parents know about getting a pump through insurance?
I didn’t mention it before- Sometimes pumps are free through insurance, but often there are also upgrades available- For instance, I paid $50 and got the blue spectra instead of the pink one, (Spectra S1, the blue one, is rechargeable.) A blue Spectra out of pocket is over $200 so $50 was worth it! (We talk more about this in the video below)
Is it worth upgrading to a higher-end model—or can insurance-covered options do the job?
What I have seen is that many mommas go with the free one the first time, learn their lesson, and choose an upgrade for their next baby, or end up spending money out of pocket on an additional pump. For example, if they got the Medela Pump In Style (which everyone hates) they should have just upgraded for a better pump! I suggest getting a good, quality pump (like Spectra, Cimilre, or Motif) as your primary pump, and then getting a more portable option for a secondary pump. (We talk more about primary and secondary pumps on the podcast)
Comfort & Efficiency
Let’s talk about flange size. Why does it matter and how can someone find the right fit?
If I could shout it from the rooftops I would! Flange sizing is EVERYTHING! There has been great advancement in flange sizing research and many lactation professionals have done additional professional development, enabling them to size you correctly. Some still are under-educated and tell mommas to stick with the standard size or even size UP, which is hardly ever appropriate. You want to target the milk ducks just right and not suck areola into the tunnel. A flange closer to the diameter of your nipple is more appropriate. A sizing should involve a comprehensive conversation about output, pain, time spent pumping, etc… not just a visual measurement.
- Book a consult with Melissa from Pump Momma Pump
- Get Melissa’s Ultimate DIY Flange Sizing Guide (free!)
What advice do you have for parents who aren’t getting great output with their pump?
First, focus on what you can control. Get a flange sizing done and try different pumps, if possible. (I highly suggest asking friends/family or local mom groups if you can borrow or buy a breast pump to try out!) Experiment with pump settings and talking to professionals about what pump settings might work best, etc. Make sure you are eating a diet rich in protein and healthy fats and staying hydrated throughout the day. Be realistic about output. (You might make .5-2oz combined after a full nursing session or 3-5 ounces if you replace a nursing session with a pump session.) If none of this helps, consult a lactation professional, your OBGYN, or your GP to see if there are underlying factors that could be contributing to low supply. (My favorite resource is Kaia Lacey from lowsupplymom.com)
How do parents know if their pump is the problem—or if something else is going on?
If you have the opportunity, try a different brand or style pump than the one you have. If you’ve been using your pump often, replace your valves and other “wiggly” parts that wear out easily. If you already did this… seek out a consultation. Go to someone who specializes in what you need- pumping, oversupply, undersupply… there’s someone who can help, even virtually.
Back to Work Reality
Any tips for pumping in shared spaces or on the go—like in the car or between meetings?
CeresChill, duh! (The interview was hosted by CeresChill) But seriously… find products and hacks that make your life easier. A hack that worked great for me, was the “fridge hack.” After a pumping session at work, I emptied out the bottles into my CeresChill, and then I reattached the bottles, wiped the inside of my flange with a Medela wipe, and stored my pump accessories in the fridge between pumping sessions, taking them home at the end of the work day and fully cleaning. As a CLC, however, I am supposed to let you know that the CDC advises fully washing, rinsing and air drying parts after every use.
- Ceres Chill milk chiller- Discount Code PUMPITUP
- Medela wipes on Amazon
- MomCozy travel bottle brush set
- Travel baby bottle drying rack and brush
How should parents plan their pumping schedule once they’re back at work?
Plan to pump around 2-3 times during the typical 8-hour work day. Going a full work day without emptying your breasts could result in painful engorgement, inflammation, and even mastitis. This could also greatly reduce your milk supply because since you aren’t emptying the breasts, they slow down milk production. If you cannot fit 3 sessions into your work day, or your production is lower than what baby needs while you are away, you might have to use your commute to pump as well, or add a session before or after work. Make what you can, and supplement the rest. Your mental health is worth it, obsessing over milk supply can be stressful!
What do you recommend for building a freezer stash before going back?
Not super necessary. Ideally, you’d be pumping prior to going back to work, so you may start a small stash in your freezer. A great time to pump as a nursing mom is about 5-10 minutes after your morning feed. After starting work, the goal will be to pump enough at work on Monday to leave with Tuesday’s caregiver, and so on.
Final Wisdom
What’s the biggest pumping myth you’d love to bust?
That pumping is not sustainable! I have heard SO many mommas say that their pediatrician, mother, friend, etc told them that if they started pumping, their milk supply would dry up. That’s just not true! For a mother with a full milk supply, it’s totally possible to protect and preserve that supply through pumping at work. I find that the people who say this have had a bad experience with pumping, didn’t use the right pump/flange for them, didn’t pump regularly to protect their supply, etc. There’s almost always a reason that pumping didn’t work out. With the right supports, pumping can absolutely be sustainable.
If you could go back and tell your younger self one thing about breastfeeding, what would that be?
Oh gosh…. I have two. First of all, that pumping IS breastfeeding! The milk is just as nutritional and you are still working to provide that liquid gold for your sweet baby!
The second thing I’d tell myself is that is doesn’t have to be all or nothing. I had to supplement 50% formula for my second baby and I initially felt major guilt about this. It turns out, though, that by reducing the number of pump sessions per day, I was able to feel more free and pump much longer than my original goal! My original goal was 6 months and I fully weaned at 14 months! Author Jessica Shortall once wrote, “Even if baby isn’t getting 100% of your breastmilk, they are getting 100% of the benefits of your breastmilk.” Think of it as the most personalized vitamin you could offer!
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#7- How Important the Pump Momma Pump Community Would Become (“7 Things I Wish I Knew” Series)
To celebrate Pump Momma Pump’s 7th Birthday, I’m sharing the “7 Things I Wish I Knew” at the start of my pumping journey. Here’s the final part of the series, #7: I wish I knew how important the Pump Momma Pump community would become.
I wish I knew how important Pump Momma Pump would become to me:
My mom used to joke that Pump Momma Pump was my second baby. I began PMP right between my two babies, and I celebrate the birthday of PMP every April 27th. Like children, this business is a work of heart- it’s challenging at times, but a great joy. I wish I knew how pumped I would become about pumping, and pumping education. It truly is a passion.
Yes, it’s a business, true… I do consults and flange sizing. I also provide advice and motivation on the website… but it’s much more than that. Pump Momma Pump’s main platform is Instagram, where we’ve grown a true community. Community matters greatly when you’re a new momma. There’s nothing worse than feeling alone. Exclusive pumping can be so isolating. I started PMP to be what I needed when I started pumping- a community of pumping mommas sharing what works best and feeling a little less alone. I wish I knew how many others needed that same thing!
I wish I knew how important Pump Momma Pump would become to my mommas:
To you. Someone recently asked me what I call my followers… you know, like… Taylor Swift’s Swifties? I simply replied, “My mommas.” and I do call you that. How many times over the past 7 years my husband has heard me say, “Let me ask my mommas…” or, “One of my mommas told me…” or, “The mommas are going crazy about…..” etc etc etc.
So this final birthday post is dedicated to you. Your words, Your successes, Your pictures. (Thank you to everyone who shared! I wish I could post all of them, but that would be one super long blog post!)
“I didn’t even know what exclusive pumping was. You taught me EVERYTHING about pumping and helped me breastfeed my first preemie baby for a whole year!” ~Meredith ((Oh I’m so glad to hear it, Meredith!))
“You have helped me not feel guilty about EP and built my confidence with pumping.” ~Emily ((Aw, much love Emily!))
Where do I even start…I learned almost everything I know from you! I had a rough start with my first preemie baby but by the time I had my second I felt so empowered thanks to you. I combo fed my first for 9 mos and EP’d 13 mos for my second. I just finished last week and have been wanting to reach out and thank you!” ~LGJ ((So glad you felt empowered, L!))
“You taught me that there is nothing wrong with exclusively pumping! I even chose to do it the 2nd time around bc of all the knowledge you shared on pumping!” ~Caitlin ((Darn right, Caitlin!))
“Haven’t pumped in about 2 years but I did pump for 13 months and your account gave me the confidence to exclusively pump. I don’t know anyone else who EPed but through you I learned the right language and how to push back when people said my child wasn’t breast fed. The most game changer for me though was learning about the manual pump, changed the game altogether.” ~JM Dunn ((I’m so glad, JM!))
“I found you because I was an exclusive pumper by choice with my first baby (so far) and your posts helped me drop my MOTN session and then eventually wean after 11.5 months.” ~Kendall ((Way to go, Kendall!))
“You helped get over some huge bumps in the road for my last two babes. How to make my pumping system better, how to figure out a schedule when I went back to work, how to minimize washing, how to optimize storage, how to use the haaka and manual pump (my fave because of you when baby 3 arrived)” ~Jess ((Thank you, Jess!))
“You are the only reason I even knew EP was an option, a huge part of how I was able to EP for over a year and then choose to EP from the beginning for # 2! Invaluable knowledge, guidance, encouragement and support” ~Sarina ((Sounds like my story, Sarina!))
“As an IVF mom I already felt like my body wasn’t made for motherhood so when baby was jaundice, wouldn’t latch, wasn’t gaining weight, moved to formula supplement and I started exclusively pumping, I felt even more like motherhood wasn’t for my body. Rhen, I found Pump Momma Pump. I learned that it was okay. My baby was still fed my milk and I wasn’t the only mom who had struggles.” ~Katie ((Thanks, Katie!))
“Pump mama pump gave me the confidence to feed my baby using whichever tools (breast, pump, bottle, breast milk, formula, combo) worked for our family at the time.” ~Cami ((I’m so glad, Cami!))
“I literally had no idea how to pump – I wasn’t exclusively pumping, but our breastfeeding journey started with triple feeding, ended with pumping at work into weaning, and every combination of feeding in between. This platform showed me that every journey is unique, and that every form of feeding my babies is valid and special. I struggled so hard through my postpartum and breastfeeding journey with my first, that I feared my second. Luckily – your page and other real pages – helped me see the beauty & pragmatism in being a really great REAL LIFE mom.” ~Michele ((Thank you, Michele!))
“Your tips and tricks help me to get through a rough day of pumping!” ~Jennalee ((I’m happy to help, Jennalee!))
Fuel the fun, hun!
I hope you enjoyed birthday week! It’s been a lot of fun over on Instagram! We did 7 days of giveaways, 7 days of blogging, 7 days of sharing YOUR pictures and YOUR stories! I’m going to go eat some birthday cake and celebrate.
*Cheers to 7 Years, my mommas* Much love, Melissa
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#6- Partner support helps exclusive pumping work (“7 Things I Wish I Knew” Series)
To celebrate Pump Momma Pump’s 7th Birthday, I’m sharing the “7 Things I Wish I Knew” at the start of my pumping journey. Here’s #6: Partner support helps exclusive pumping work. I wish I knew just how active a roll my husband would take in supporting my pumping journey!
Important note before I begin: My husband did not get paternity leave. He took a few vacation days while our first baby was in the NICU, but otherwise went to work every day of the work week. Working his day job did not affect his ability to support me when he was home, and I am grateful for a relationship where I felt fully supported during my maternity leave, sharing parenting responsibilities as 50/50 as possible, when possible.
He was one of my biggest cheerleaders
Every pumping mom needs a cheerleader! Someone to listen to their goals and help them achieve them! My husband was totally on board with whatever feeding goal I had in mind before giving birth and attended a prenatal breastfeeding class with me. When I ended up exclusive pumping, that plan changed, but the support did not. We ended up liking the exclusive pumping lifestyle because it helped him take on a more active role in feeding our children.
Not everyone was on board with my choice to exclusively pump. Some people didn’t hide their disappointment that I chose to pump instead of nurse. Others questioned what was in my bottle and judged me, assuming I was formula feeding. My own mom didn’t even “get” it, you know? But Greg did. He was totally on board and even talks to his friends about it! It was really hard at times, but he stuck by my side. He was and is one of my biggest supporters and I am so grateful.
He fed the baby more than I did!
This was especially true in the NICU! Most of the time we spent there, I was pumping while my husband fed and changed our baby. But even after the NICU, when we was home and I was pumping, he was usually the one feeding the babies. It was an incredible bonding experience for him and definitely a help to me!
He was nervous at first, because unlike my years of experience caring for a younger sibling or children I babysat, he had no prior experience with babies. He was also nervous because our first baby was small and connected to wires and tubes in the NICU! The NICU nurses showed him how to feed, burp, and change our son. With a bit of practice, he grew more comfortable. He had a whole routine for feeding and burping down, and quickly became a pro at it!
We split nights
We call this “protected sleep.” My husband is even a total fan of the method and talks about it often. From the graphic below, you can see that as an exclusive pumper, I pumped once in the middle of the night, until my babies slept through the night, staring at 1 month postpartum (I pumped twice in the night for the first month.)
Every time I pumped, I would leave out a bottle of freshly pumped breastmilk on the counter for the next feed (this is OK to do if you feed it within four hours) It really saved time from when we used to use bottle warmers, rookie mistake.
My husband is a night owl so, he was often good to be awake until midnight or so, so taking the first shift was easy for him, and preferable. This way he also got that solid block of sleep right before work. No, he did not get any paternity leave, and he had a desk job, so it was OK if he was a little tired. I mean come on, mom is literally caring for another human being all day and we think it’s OK for her to be the tired one? …Patriarchy. Ugh.
How was my sleep protected?
When I was off-duty, I’d sleep in our bedroom with a loud A/C on. Getting that solid block of sleep did a world of wonders for me in those early months, we were both as rested as the other. It was great for empathy, let me tell you.
If baby needed to eat right at 2 AM, dad would feed the baby while I pumped. If dad already went to bed, I would either pause my pumping session and feed the baby, or feed the baby while I pumped, which became easier with practice.
He took on dish duty
We didn’t figure this one out right away. At first, I thought only I knew how to do this properly, so I did it all. That became tiresome VERY quickly. I taught him the safe way to clean pumping supplies (see advice for cleaning HERE) and soon he was able to help me out by taking on dish duty for pumping and feeding supplies.
After I had my second baby, I developed postpartum anxiety disorder and had a really rough time of it for awhile there. At this time, we reviewed our household jurisdictions and he took over ALL dish washing (did I wash dishes here and there? Of course… but feeding (whether it be pumping milk, packing lunches, or cooking meals) became mostly my duty and washing up became mostly his duty.)
As you can imagine, this helped support my exclusive pumping journey. I also did the fridge hack, which involves storing my pumping accessories in the refrigerator between sessions so he only watched the whole batch every morning and every evening. (I really should write a whole blog post on the “Fridge hack” but for now, you can read about it in the highlights on my Instagram page.)
>>> Note to the reader: I usually create blog posts to offer advice, tips, and tricks to apply to your own pumping journey. I kept this particular blog post personal, because I am sharing what worked for us, in our own family dynamic. Everybody’s family works differently and my experience may look similar or very different than yours. In no way am I instructing you in how your relationship should work or how your household should run. If you do get inspired to try any of the things that worked well for us, I hope they work well for you too!
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#5- Supplementing is okay! (“7 Things I Wish I Knew” Series)
To celebrate Pump Momma Pump’s 7th Birthday, I’m sharing the “7 Things I Wish I Knew” at the start of my pumping journey. Here’s #5: Supplementing is not only “okay” but can help you meet or exceed your breastfeeding goal!
I highly suggest setting an achievable goal, which looks different for everyone. (Yours might be week-to-week or month-to-month, 3 months, 6 months, etc!) When I was exclusively pumping for my first baby, I set a goal of 6 months. I had the support system and resources where 6 months seemed like an achievable goal. At the 6 months mark, I decided that I could keep going! I reduced my pumps to 4 per day to give myself more freedom, and began supplementing. Supplementing helped me far exceed my goal (I made it to 11 months with my first baby!)
Let’s talk about supplementing. It’s way more common than you think. Supplementing is a fact of life for many mommas, but can also be the key to prolonging your pumping journey!
How? Read on to find out:
*This post is NOT sponsored by any formula brands, nor is any specific brand mentioned/suggested/promoted within this post*
Coming to terms with supplementing
The need to supplement can leave mommas feeling guilty about not being able to provide a complete diet of breastmilk for their baby. I get it, I’ve been there. Keep in mind, even if you can’t provide 100% breastmilk for your baby, they are still getting 100% of the benefits of your breastmilk. Read that again, because it’s true. That amount still matters. (For example, did you know that one teaspoon of breastmilk contains up to 3 million germ-killing cells? Wow!) Still, it can be hard to start supplementing. There can be feelings of failure. There can be feelings of guilt and grief. Let yourself feel your feelings, because they matter. Then, try reframing your mindset about supplementing. Formula was scientifically designed to help infants thrive. A mindset shift that helped me personally was this: Soon, there will be lots of things your baby will eat that you didn’t personally create with your body. Do you give yourself a hard time because you can’t create bananas, bread, or broccoli with your body? Of course not! Just group formula in with all the new foods that will nourish your baby.
I promise, there are so many silver linings to supplementing!
The benefits of supplementing
- Supplementing can help improve baby’s bilirubin levels to combat jaundice.
- Supplementing can help while a momma is actively working with a lactation professional to improve nursing or pumping.
- Supplementing under a doctor’s guidance can help a baby who is struggling with weight gain.
- Supplementing helps a momma with low supply keep offering breastmilk.
- Supplementing can help mommas reach their breast pumping goal.
- Supplementing can help momma ease up on her pumping schedule and potentially pump longer than anticipated because it feels more sustainable!
- By combo-feeding, you can ensure baby is still getting the benefits of your breastmilk, no matter what amount you are able to provide. Think of it as the most personalized vitamin you can give them!
Since this is a topic I feel passionately about, I’ve blogged about it before. Today’s blog is an abbreviated version. For the full blog on supplementing, click HERE.
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#4- Calories Count [to support your milk supply]! (“7 Things I Wish I Knew” Series)
To celebrate Pump Momma Pump’s 7th Birthday, I’m sharing the “7 Things I Wish I Knew” at the start of my pumping journey. Here’s #4: Calories Count! Breastfeeding expends an average of 500 calories per day. It wasn’t until my second exclusive pumping journey that I realized how a big ol’ cheeseburger would increase my milk supply for the day (and dehydration would kill my milk supply!)
Fuel for the Flow: How Calories & Hydration Can Boost Your Milk Supply
Breastfeeding is an incredible way to nourish your baby — but did you know that nourishing yourself is just as important? Make sure your body is set up for success- calories and hydration are two of the biggest players in the game.
Let’s break down why eating enough and staying hydrated can help increase milk supply — and how to do it right.
Milk Production is a Metabolic Workout
Producing breast milk takes a lot of energy. On average, your body burns an extra 500 calories a day just by making milk. That’s like going for a 45-minute run! Woah! So if you’re not getting enough calories or fluids, your body may not have the fuel it needs to keep up milk production. It’s kind of like trying to drive cross-country on an empty tank.
Your body prioritizes nourishing your baby, but if it’s running low on energy, milk supply can dip. Here’s how to make sure you’re eating enough:
✅ Eat Often
You don’t need fancy meals — just consistent fuel. Aim for 5-6 small meals/snacks a day to keep energy (and milk) flowing.
✅ Focus on Nutrient-Rich Foods
- Good fats: Avocados, nuts, seeds, olive oil
- Proteins: Eggs, dairy, meat, tofu, beans
- Whole carbs: Oats, quinoa, brown rice, fruits
✅ Don’t Fear the Snack
Trail mix, granola bars, smoothies, nut butter on toast — these are easy, one-handed fuel-ups you can manage even when you’re running on baby snuggles and no sleep.
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💧 Why Hydration is Key
Milk is about 88% water, so staying hydrated is essential to keeping supply steady. Dehydration can make you feel tired, sluggish, and even reduce milk output.
✅ How Much Water Should You Drink?
There’s no one-size-fits-all answer, but a good rule of thumb is to drink to thirst and aim for about 8–12 cups a day. More if you’re sweating, exercising, or in a hot climate.
✅ Pro Tips to Stay Hydrated:
- Keep a big water bottle next to your pumping or nursing station.
- Sip while you feed — make it a habit!
- Don’t like plain water? Add a slice of lemon, cucumber, or berries to keep things interesting.
- Diet Coke doesn’t count! Soda, Coffee, even Teas are not great ways to hydrate and can even lead to greater dehydration!
🚫 What to Avoid
- Skipping meals: It’s easy to forget to eat, especially with a newborn. But skipping meals can tank your energy — and your supply.
- Caffeine overload: A cup or two of coffee is totally fine, but too much caffeine can be dehydrating.
- “Dieting” too soon: Trying to lose baby weight too quickly can lead to a drop in milk. Focus on nourishment first — your body will find its balance in time.
Find correlating factors
What’s a correlating factor? It’s a variable that shows a relationship with one or more other variables, indicating whether changes in one variable are associated with changes in others. Huh? Pay attention to a pump session that is greater or less than average, and see if there are any factors that might have correlated with this increase or decrease. For example, I found that after I ate a high-protein meal (like a cheeseburger,) I’d pump more milk. I found that after a day drinking barely anything, I’d pump less milk, booooo.
Every body is different — and while hydration and calories are two of the biggest contributors to milk supply, they aren’t the only factors. Hormones, stress, latch issues, and even pumping frequency all play a role. But making sure you’re eating and drinking enough is one of the easiest (and most empowering) steps you can take.
Milk-making mamas are athletes — your body is working hard to nourish your baby! Treat it with the care it deserves: eat enough, hydrate often, and rest when you can. The better you take care of yourself, the better you’ll feel — and the more your body can show up for your baby.
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Have favorite snacks or hydration hacks? Drop them in the comments below. Your go-to smoothie might just be another mom’s game-changer!
#3- Pumping is EXPENSIVE! (“7 Things I Wish I Knew” Series)
To celebrate Pump Momma Pump’s 7th Birthday, I’m sharing the “7 Things I Wish I Knew” at the start of my pumping journey. Here’s #3: Pumping is expensive! I always heard mommas say that breastfeeding is free… but let me tell you- pumping is NOT! I wish I knew how expensive it would get and better yet, how to save money on the things I needed.
Whether you’re a working parent, dealing with latching issues, or simply want to share feeding responsibilities, pumping can be a crucial part of your journey — and a surprisingly expensive one. Let’s break down the true cost of pumping and how you can save money without sacrificing quality or comfort.
The Hidden Costs of Breast Pumping — and How to Save Money
The Real Costs of Breast Pumping
You’d think once you have a pump, you’re set, right? Not exactly. Here are some of the key expenses you might run into, and what I wish I knew about each:
1. The Breast Pump Itself
- Price range: $50 to $500+
>>> I WISH I KNEW- that most exclusive pumpers have more than one pump! Yes, many mommas can get a breast pump free through insurance but I didn’t realize how much trial and error there would be in exclusive pumping. I ended up with 4 pumps- 3 of which I purchased at full price. I even shelled out an extra $50 to upgrade my “free” insurance pump to a blue Spectra S1 (rechargeable) instead of the free pink version.
2. Replacement Parts
- Valves, membranes, tubing, and flanges wear out quickly, especially if you pump often.
>>> I WISH I KNEW- that I’d be trying out many flange sizes and styles and I experimented with the best fit and greatest comfort, so I’d be spending money on parts I didn’t even end up using very much!
3. Bottles & Storage Bags
- Milk storage bags are single-use, adding up fast.
>>> I WISH I KNEW- that I’d never end up using the larger baby bottles, as my babies never took more than a 5oz bottle could hold! I did spend a lot of money on storage bags for freezing, though… I found out quickly that the store brand from Target or Walmart are just fine and cheaper!
4. Accessories & Comfort Items
- Pumping bras, nipple cream, cleaning wipes, sterilizers, cooler bags — the list grows.
>>> I WISH I KNEW- that these aren’t luxuries, they were essentials for comfort and convenience since I spent months and months pumping! I also wish I put a lot of these things on my registry… but I didn’t realize I’d be exclusively pumping!
5. Food & Supplements
- Breastfeeding consumes around 500 calories a day, so it’s important to eat extra protein and healthy fats. Many mommas also end up buying cookies and supplements in an attempt to boost supply
>>> I WISH I KNEW- that supplements are not the best way to boost supply and can end up costing soooo much! And if you really want cookies, make them yourself! So much cheaper and tastier!
6. Time
- Time is money, honey. The act of pumping — setting up, cleaning, storing, and feeding — takes time out of your day, often unpaid.
>>> I WISH I KNEW- how to multitask to make the most of the time spent pumping. I wrote about many ways to multitask while pumping in THIS blog.
Tips to Save Money on Pumping
Luckily, there are smart ways to cut down on costs without cutting corners. I had to learn this over time… so go easy on yourself if you haven’t thought of some of these tricks on your own! Pumping is a labor of love — but it shouldn’t be a financial burden. The key is to plan ahead, know your options, and take advantage of resources available to you. Every penny saved is a little less stress and a little more support during an already demanding phase of parenthood.
>>> I’ll include my own advice to how to know whether to SAVE or SPLURGE on specific items for breast pumping!
✅ Check Your Insurance
- In many countries (like the U.S. where I live), insurance plans are required to cover a breast pump. Contact your provider early in pregnancy to find out what’s covered- you might find different pump options covered through different companies, so don’t limit yourself!
>>> SAVE- Take advantage of this! Even if you already have a pump, get that free insurance pump!
>>>SPLURGE- If you’re going to exclusively pump, use the free pump through insurance to get a sturdy workhorse of a pump (like Spectra) and splurge on a more portable option to give yourself more freedom and flexibility.
✅ Go Manual
- Manual pumps are inexpensive and useful for occasional pumping or on-the-go emergencies. You know I love love love my manual pump!
>>> SAVE- Put that manual pump on your registry! I know many nursing mommas who still use one from time to time!
>>>SPLURGE- If you already have an electric pump, get a manual, too! Believe me, you need a manual pump!
✅ Save on Replacement Parts
- Amazon offers compatible replacement parts (flanges, tubes, valves, etc) for a lower price.
>>> SAVE- Know what parts you’ll REALLY need to replace… the internet will tell you to replace everything. In my personal and professional opinion, unless something is damaged, only the valves need replacing regularly (monthly for EPers, 3 months for occasional pumpers)
>>>SPLURGE- I personally loved my Lacteck silicone flanges, which were more expensive. It was SO worth it for comfort and durability- I never had to replace them!
✅ Buy or find free pumps and accessories
- Many moms sell or giveaway lightly used pumps. If you buy one second-hand, replace all the parts that come into contact with milk (flanges, valves, tubing) for hygiene and efficiency.
>>> SAVE- Check your local mom groups on Facebook to see if anyone has a pump or accessories to give you. Breastfeeding moms know how expensive pumping can be and are often eager to help out!
>>>SPLURGE- While Facebook marketplace does not allow the sale of pumps, ebay does! If you can select a new one over a used one, that’s usually the way to go!
✅ Use Reusable Storage Bags
- Some brands offer washable, reusable silicone storage bags. A bigger upfront investment, but they pay off in the long run.
>>> SAVE- Honestly I love the cheap freezer bags from Walmart or Target, especially if you’re going to be a milk donor! (Actually, if you are donating milk to a local mom, THEY should buy your freezer bags for ya!)
>>>SPLURGE- The price on some of these might look $$ at first, but they are reusable! The Ceres Chill Milkstache freezing system works well for this! I wish I had this myself!
✅ DIY Sterilizing
- Instead of expensive sterilizing gadgets, sterilize pump parts by boiling them or using microwave-safe sterilizing bags (which are reusable up to 20+ times).
>>> SAVE- I wish I got a microwave sterilizer like THIS instead of buying all those disposable bags! I now get this as presents for my pumping friends.
>>>SPLURGE- My friend exclusively pumped for two babies and is SO glad she splurged on a countertop bottle washer and sterilizer! It wasn’t for me, but it was a game changer for her!
✅ Find Discount Codes
- A simple google search will help you find discount codes for name-brand products!
>>> SAVE- Here’s my list of discount codes to get started!
Melissa’s final thoughts:
>>> I’m glad I spent money on:
- Multiple pumps! Here are the pumps I had and my thoughts on them.
- Quality products like Lacteck flanges and Sarah Wells bags. The flanges were a total game changer for comfort, and the Sarah Wells bag was the treat I needed to keep me motivated!
>>> I regret spending money on:
- My Elvie pump. I shelled out $500 out of pocket and barely used it. I wish I would have found a gently used one for far less $$$ or opted for a lower cost wearable.
- So many bottles! My babies never even ended up using larger bottles!
- Cookies and supplements! Supplements are a band-aid fix at best, and lactation cookies are cheaper and tastier if you make them yourself!
- Baby shoes (Okay, this is not pumping-related, but why do people buy shoes for babies? So silly, LOL.)
Got more hacks or ways you saved money while pumping? Share them in the comments below — your tips could be a lifesaver for another parent!
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#2- Flange Sizing is SO Important! (“7 Things I Wish I Knew” Series)
To celebrate Pump Momma Pump’s 7th Birthday, I’m sharing the 7 Things I Wish I Knew at the start of my pumping journey. Here’s #2: Flange sizing is SO important! I talk about flange size a lot because it’s one of the most impactful parts of your pumping accessories, next to your pump itself.
Education about flange sizing has been historically… awful. How many of you were even sized at all? Or perhaps you were told that the 24mm that came with your pump is good enough? Or, more absurdly, were told to size UP to a 27 or 30 when the average mommas is more like a 17mm? Lately, though, there have been great strides toward not only figuring out the best way to size a momma for a well-fitting flange, but also to educate lactation professionals in best practices to use with their clients.
What I wish I knew about flange sizing
In the beginning, I didn’t know any better. I spent several months using the flange that came with my Spectra pump- 24mm. Pumping HURT and took forever! My poor areolas were red and painful. It hurt to shower and when clothing touched my nipples. I never got a second or third letdown. I didn’t know much about flange sizing at the time, but I could tell that mine were too large, so I sized down to a 21mm and spend the rest of my entire first pumping journey using 21mm. For my second baby, I had greater knowledge about flange-sizing but the recommendation at the time was to size 4mm larger than my nipples, so I used a 19mm hard flange or a 18mm Lacteck flange. The silicone Lacteck was a much better fit and felt so much more comfortable! Still, with what I know now, I wonder how much better I’d respond to a flange much closer to my nipple size of 15mm. *shrugs* You don’t know what you don’t know… you know?
Why is flange sizing so important?
Flange sizing can REALLY improve your breast pumping journey. A well-fitting flange can increase comfort, help you empty quicker, and ensure that you’re fully emptying each time you pump. I suggest waiting until AFTER birth to measure. Also, it’s a good idea to measure before pumping, not after. You want to measure the median thickness of your nipple, before it widens out into your areola. Then, select a flange size that is close to the size of your nipple, or just a little bit larger. (Example, if you measure 15mm, select a 15-16mm flange)
HOWEVER, flange sizing is SO MUCH MORE than “here, go measure yourself.” Mommas don’t usually know where/what to measure, and there are other factors that play into successful flange sizing than measurement alone. What are those factors?
- FIT- Flange stays centered and does not gap or slide around
- FEEL- Pumping is comfortable without pain to the nipple or areola
- SPRAYS- Strong sprays of milk are a good sign it fits well (and good suction/settings on your pump).
- EMPTYING FULLY- Meaning that milk is not left in areas of the breast/frequent clogs
- EFFICIENCY- Sessions that take 15-30min max.
The Ultimate DIY Flange Sizing Guide
It can be difficult to measure yourself, so I created a guide to walk you through it. Access it HERE for free!
Read a more in-depth version of this blog post here: “How do I know what flange size to use?”
Confused? This is why a flange sizing appointment can be helpful! You don’t have to figure it all out on your own, momma! Get sized by a knowledgeable lactation professional.
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#1-Exclusive Pumping IS “a thing!” (“7 Things I Wish I Knew” Series)
To celebrate Pump Momma Pump’s 7th Birthday, I’m sharing the “7 Things I Wish I Knew” at the start of my pumping journey. Here’s #1: I wish I knew… that Exclusive Pumping IS “a thing!” I wish I knew… That exclusive pumping IS breastfeeding! That exclusive pumping IS sustainable! That more people exclusively pump than you realize! That it can be an empowering CHOICE for your family!
Before giving birth for the first time, my husband and I took a series of prenatal classes offered by our hospital. One taught us about childbirth. One taught us about bringing home a newborn. And one, as you can guess… was on breastfeeding. I assumed I would breastfeed. That was our plan. In our limited experience at the time, we felt that the class “prepared” us for breastfeeding. Did they even MENTION pumping? One guess…. go ahead, guess…
Nope. We don’t even remember it being mentioned, let alone ever hearing the term “exclusive pumping.”
After giving birth a month early, my baby landed himself in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU) because he didn’t have the stamina to nurse/transfer milk well from the breast. Over the first few days, I met with 3 lactation hospital counselors (that’s unheard of!) Guess how many of them helped me use a pump, flange-sized me, or even mentioned pumping as an option- 0. ZERO…. Zip. Nada. Zilch. Fast-forward to years later, this doesn’t surprise me at all because I hear it all the time. Why are hospital lactation consultants so bad? Aaaanyway… it was one amazing NICU nurse named Pat who taught me to use a breast pump, got me set up with a strict pumping schedule, and gave me the tough love I needed to stick to that schedule. I need to find Pat and give her a big ol’ hug or something. I owe a lot to that woman. She taught me that exclusive pumping is definitely “a thing” and definitely “a thing” that I could do for my baby when he was in the NICU and I was feeling so powerless.
Exclusive Pumping IS “a thing!”
Exclusive Pumping (often abbreviated as “EP”) is totally absolutely 100% a thing! Exclusive pumping means that you feed breastmilk by pumping and bottle-feeding instead of nursing/latching directly from the breast. Even if you are supplementing with formula, you’re still exclusively pumping. It’s how women all over the world feed their babies when their baby is unable to transfer milk well from the breast. When they are separated from their baby. When their baby is on a nursing strike. When they go back to work. And yeah…. When they choose to because it feels or works better for them. I have often felt like an outcast, being made to feel that EPing is somehow a lesser form of feeding that breastfeeding. But guess what, buttercup… exclusive pumping IS breastfeeding!
Exclusive Pumping IS breastfeeding!
When my baby was very young, my aunt asked me if I was breastfeeding. I replied that no, I was exclusively pumping. She put one hand on my forearm, looked me in the eyes, and said “Pumping is still breastfeeding, it’s just not nursing.” Life. Changing. Revelation!
- Breastfeeding: n. the action of feeding a baby with milk from the breast. (Oxford English Dictionary)
If you ever encounter a scenario in which you need to educate someone about this topic, you can steal my aunt’s very simple reply- “Pumping is still breastfeeding, it’s just not nursing.”
Exclusive Pumping IS sustainable!
I have heard SO many mommas tell me that their pediatrician (or mom, or cousin, or friend, or random person on the street with too many opinions) told them that they wouldn’t be able to exclusively pump because it isn’t sustainable. Why do they say this? Here’s my best guess:
- Because EPing requires regular, frequent pumping right from birth to bring in the next stage of lactation, to build, and to maintain supply. That’s not always possible for some women, as life and other priorities get in the way.
- Because everyone responds to breast pumps differently and it can take a lot of trial-and-error to find one that works well for you.
- Because moms don’t always know how to find an effective flange size and pump settings to make the most out of their supply.
- Because there isn’t enough support for exclusive pumping. In my formal CLC training, we used a textbook with 350 pages and only 15 of them mentioned pumping.
- Because they know someone who couldn’t sustain an exclusive pumping journey and that’s all they’re going from.
So yes, barring any primary low supply issues (Primary low milk supply occurs when a mother’s body is unable to produce enough breast milk to meet her baby’s needs, even when breastfeeding practices are optimal.) with enough support and knowledge, exclusive pumping can absolutely be sustainable.
More people exclusively pump than you realize!
I remember standing in the kitchen at work, washing my pump parts. A table of coworkers were eating lunch when another walked into the kitchen and struck up a conversation with me about her current exclusive pumping journey. Two of the women eating shared that they had exclusively pumped for their babies, too. That’s FOUR women in one office kitchen that exclusively pumped- How cool is that? I got SO EXCITED as you can imagine! People aren’t used to someone cheering about EPing. Many view EPing as a failure in some way. The women didn’t all immediately high-five each other. I honestly think they thought I was weird. It wasn’t until I explained what I do here at Pump Momma Pump that they realized why i was so excited. I hope they left lunch feeling more “normal” and celebrated, than they did before lunch that day!
Over the past 7 years I have “met” thousands of mommas online from AROUND THE WORLD that exclusively pump! They’re out there, you just have to find them! I hope that you’ve found community here at Pump Momma Pump and feel as celebrated as my friends at work did that day at lunch! If I could give each of you a high five, I would!
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